Right, I don't think will bother me. I usually take my time writing and often get side tracked part way through, so by the time I send it's had a good looking at.
I don't understand "reply with quote'. When I click that the reply panel doesn't show the quote. If I click it twice it does.
If you click "reply with quote", he said, clicking "reply with quote", the message you're replying to should appear at the top of the "quick reply" screen immediately. At least it does on my Macbook Air, in Firefox. Might be different on your pooter/with your browser -- maybe someone with a PC (assuming you have a PC) can confirm?
What computer/version of windows/internet browser are you using?